Don’t you just love a good adventure movie? Especially ones where the hero of the story gets to “go on” because someone in the story sacrificed themselves?
But don’t we watch that story because WE want to be that hero that gets to go on, live life, accomplish some goal, and get the reward?
I mean, how many of us would actually WANT to be the one making the sacrifice? To end our lives for the sake of someone else, so they can go on. Even if it wasn’t a physical death, but just giving up what we want or the life we want. How many of us are willing to do that?
My greatest challenge these past few years is that God has been asking me to be a “sacrificer” not a “sacrificee”. And I sometimes struggle against it.
See, I had what our society calls “it all.” I had a great career, made lots of money – more than the average of this society, and I did not have any children. My money and time were all mine. Travel, eating out, movies, clothing, spa days, etc… were my norm.
And yet, I wasn’t actually happy or satisfied.
So God asked me to sacrifice that life so I could have this one instead: Being a homeschool Teacher, mother to four children, serving my community, living on a fraction money that I made, and giving up most of what I “loved.”
Not death, but certainly giving up a lot.
There are days when I am so grateful and I see the joy in making this sacrifice.
Then there are the days when I do not believe I can go on and I start resenting my sacrifice.
It is an ongoing battle, but I continue to choose they way of sacrifice.
Unfortunately, I am seeing others giving up and striving to be the “sacrificee” – all for the crumbs of this life.
What are YOU missing out on because you are still being a “sacrificee” instead of a “sacrificer”?
I do not subscribe to the Bohemian lifestyle per say, but I do admit that the Boho clothing, as a whole, tends to fit in with what I love to wear: soft, feminine, flowing, romantic, and frequently modest.
Yes, I believe women should dress in a way that is lovely and modest. What that means may differ a bit from woman to woman. For me, it means I always wear skirts or dresses (and they are below the knees). I do not wear low cut tops or tight fitting clothing. If I am wearing something tight fitting, it is usually under a sheer top or under a cardigan. Layers can be quite lovely.
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Below are a couple of amazing outfits that I found on Target.com and would buy if I had the budget:
I love feminine, romantic clothing and this new “Boho” trend tends to have a lot of choices in that area. If you enjoy flowing, beautiful dresses and skirts and tops, you should check out my Top 10 list this month for my favorite Boho finds on Amazon and maybe you will find your new favorite outfit!
How many days a week do you ACTUALLY get everything done on your schedule?
How often to your plans get changed or go awry? And do you ever sit (or stand if you put it on the fridge like me) before your schedule and wonder WHY? Why did I do it that way? Why isn’t everything getting done? And why don’t I feel satisfied?
If you are planning for the sake of planning, putting stuff on a schedule because you know you need to do something like that, or simply living week to week based on the the latest needs and emergency, then you are missing the KEY to planning! You are missing the FOUNDATION to build on.
I know, because this is what I have been doing for far too long and God has shown me a better way.
The Key To Good Planning
I have been planning without purpose. Oh, I have some goals: get the house clean, homeschool the children, make sure errands are getting done… but I am not putting before me each week WHY. Why does the house need to be clean? Yes, I know there are lots of good reasons, but what is MY FOUNDATIONL reason?
The key to change my haphazard daily and weekly planning was that I FIRST needed to define PURPOSEFUL goals for my current season of life.
I needed to know what my priorities for my life (and my families life) were and then I could proceed to make a useful, working schedule for myself and my family.
Start With A Simple Daily Schedule
Here we have an empty weekly schedule. Notice how simple it is (the name of my site IS A Simple Life Too). Notice that it is not defined in an hourly fashion. I am a fairly organized person, but I am simply unable to stick to an hour by hour schedule. Outside of maybe one miracle day per month, it NEVER goes according the the schedule… so then I have to start erasing and moving stuff… crying a little as I am wasting more time doing that instead of the task… and feeling like a failure because I could not stick to the exact schedule.
Therefore, I do a daily task list instead. I keep it as close to the order the tasks and events should occur and I DO write down a time if there is an appointment. This way, if we don’t start “on time” or if a task takes longer or if we have to adapt and add something to the day, we can still be on track.
If something does not get done, I circle it and refer back to it the next day to see where I can fit it in.
How Priority Based Scheduling Works
Before I start entering ANYTHING into my weekly schedule, I write down my priorities on the bottom or top of the page. Some of them are the same for many weeks, even for years. Some are week, month or season specific. Theses priorities, in order, dictate what I then put on the schedule for that week.
For example, my first priority is a life priority, I have chosen to follow Jesus. My priority is to become more like Him and serve Him.
In a practical sense, this means the first thing I schedule each week it my time with God, my time to do devotionals with my children, any service the Lord has asked of me, church (and church events), and Bible Study.
My second priority is to take care of my family. This means time with my husband, homeschool, healthcare for the children (we have had a LOT of that lately), and some time for self care.
This results in me adding homeschool tasks, any doctor’s appointments, any outings with the family, children or husband, plus my every other week outings with myself or lady friends.
My third priority is a deeper teaching for my children. I have been reading the book of Titus over and over again for the past couple of months in our Tue night Bible study and the section on what older women should teach the younger has been a guidepost for me:
Titus 2: 4 – 5: so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
I am especially honing in on the “workers at home” part. So I am teaching my children to how to cook, how to clean, how to decorate, how to host, and much more. This dictates how I fill in most of the rest of the schedule with housework, who cooks what, time for our home based business, creative pursuits, etc…
The next priority can sometimes end up higher then the second or third. These are seasonal and holiday priorities. For example, we just had the Hanukkah / Christmas season. Since we were off of school for a couple of weeks and we had lots of holiday activities to do, this took precedence over everything except for devotionals, church and doctor’s visits. Yes, it even took a priority over housecleaning!
If other things come up, I evaluate them against those first sets of priorities, decide if they fit, if they bump out other things, or if they have to wait until there is a slot. I create a little list on the bottom of my chart called “to be scheduled” to keep track of them.
I sincerely hope you find this useful and that you find your weekly schedules having more purpose going forward. I am open to any thoughts or feedback you may have.
Feel free to use my Super Simple Homeschool Planning Worksheet. It takes about 1 minute to type the framework into your favorite spreadsheet program. Then you can update it on the computer or pencil stuff in (which is what I usually do) or you can get some great planners on Amazon!
We added cream cheese frosting, halved the recipe, increased the pumpkin, and used whole wheat flour (but you don’t have to). The BHG site includes a video if you want some extra help.
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I teach the children to gather all of the needed equipment at the beginning of making a recipe. For this cookie recipe, we used:
Two cookies sheets – it is best to line your cookies sheets if you can. In the photos, we lined them with aluminum foil, but we know that it is not the healthiest option. I recommend parchment paper or silicone baking mats.
I am sitting here watching God’s Not Dead 2, I am moved to speak.
Somewhere over my lifetime, some of the people in this country, many in government places, have started a war on God, Christians, and the right to live and believe as we want.
They use excuses like “separation of church and state,” tolerance, and faith not having a place in our schools, businesses, and government.
People haven’t just turned from God themselves, they want others to turn from God also. They don’t want us to mention Him. They don’t want any of it to be true. They want us all to go away and let them do what they want… to let them live it up… and then die, in peace.
But we can’t let God leave this country, for when He does, it will become Hell. It will be so dark, so cruel, so depraved. Look at countries who have “kicked out” God, and what they have become.
Do you really want to live in Russia, North Korea, China, Hati, Vietnam, Thailand, Afghanistan, Iran, and many more atheistic or ani-Christian Countries?
I know I don’t.
God’s blessing is STILL upon us. Lets keep it that way.
Here is a list of our 7 favorite Biblical / Christian shows on PureFlix:
Just for kicks, some of these shows are links to Amazon.com so you can see the cost of purchasing them outright and what savings you get from the low cost of $7.99 per month on PureFlix. And some of these videos are hard to find, you can’t even get them on Amazon!
We love Fall around here. The cooling down from a super hot summer, the change of colors of the trees, and the somewhat slower pace of life.
For the first time, we decided to tackle the fall theme and make some useful and practical fall crafts: fall themed jewelry and fall themed hair accessories.
Basic Fall Beaded Necklace with a Central Focus Piece
Lets start with the fiery orange necklace that my daughter Sarah created. Isn’t that center metallic piece with the orange leaves just stunning?
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First, we went to Hobby Lobby and looked for two things:
What was on sale – all our components, except for the toggle clasps which we call ‘findings’, was 50% off.
What made us think of fall.
Sarah immediately found the metallic pieces and then the swirled orange beads. She then added the second set of slightly transparent beads to add texture to the final necklace.
I looked around a bit and found the beading wire for half off. The findings (the toggle clasps and crimp beads) were full price – but since the toggle clasps were the most expensive item, we got it using Hobby Lobby’s 40% off coupon! We used gold colored wire and findings.
I love to start with a clean workspace. Since we don’t have room in our house for a separate place, I keep my craft items in bead boxes and stackable baskets. We then clear the end of the table, lay down a clean cloth, then lay out our supplies.
2 – Lay Out the Beads
Decide were you want the pieces of the necklace to go. Do not start beading on the wire until you have laid things out. You may want to experiment with different patterns, how many beads you use, etc… My oldest daughter Sarah created this necklace. She started by laying down the centerpiece. She then decided to do two of the smaller, slightly transparent beads and then one of the swirl painted larger beads. When she was finished, she added a couple of additional smaller beads onto the end.
Please note that the supplies in the photo above above made two necklaces.
3 – Measure Out the Wire
Now that you have the beads laid out, you also will know how long the necklace will be. Start your wire about two to three inches before the beginning of one side of the beads, then measure it out to the other side of the laid out beads, then add two to three more inches.
4 – Add Finding One (Toggle Clasp) to the End of the Wire
Make sure your wire doesn’t have any kinks or bends in it, otherwise, the necklace will have kinks and bends. Now, start feeding the beads on from one end to the other. This is why you laid everything out beforehand, as you are starting at one end, then going to the other. This is the only way to make sure you get the centerpiece in the center of the necklace.
When you get to threading (putting on) the centerpiece, you will notice when you pick up the necklace, that it is sideways on the wire. You can do two techniques here.
Make a simple twist of the wire (two times) until the centerpiece is facing forward.
Use a finding called a jump ring. Thread the jump ring onto the wire instead of the centerpiece, then thread the jump ring through the loop on the top of the centerpiece. You may have to use the pliers to open up the jump ring, then squeeze it closed again.
As with the jewelry making, we clear a large space on our table to start our work. Hopefully someday we will have a dedicated table / craft station!
Since this project uses hot glue, we do not put a cloth under the work, but instead use a sheet of cardboard. We put the glue gun on an old plate.
2 – Set Out the Components of the Project
We make a neat pile of the sunflowers, another pile of the hair clips, plug in the glue gun and have a backup glue stick ready. We then cut out the backing felt in a round or oval shape from a simple piece of felt.
3 – Construct the Hair Clips
I will be honest, this is pretty simple.
Add hot glue to the back of the sunflower (please be doing this with an adult).
Open the hair clip and place the sunflower on top of the clip (or, you can leave the sunflower on its back, then open the clip upside down and hold it down on top of the sunflower).
Place the felt under the top part of the clip so the glue attaches to it too (see picture above).
Press (this is the hard part, to not get hot glue on you) and don’t close the clip until the glue is dry (otherwise it will adhere to the bottom of the hair clip).
We have learned the hard way that the felt is a MUST have. Hot glue does not hold permanently on surfaces like metal and plastic. But it will adhere for life (or close to it) on fabric, especially felt.
That is it! Let it dry for a few minutes and then you can put it in your hair.
Do you love to eat out one in awhile? Do you find it hard to afford when you have children (especially if you have two or more)?
Lots of restaurants around the Treasure Valley have caught on to the new trend – to offer one night a week where children get to eat free!
As a Blogger here in the Treasure Valley and a mom of four children, I have compiled this list both for myself and for you. Let me know if your favorite isn’t on the list yet.
Disclosure: Any restaurant can stop or start a kids eat free at any time. Please check with the restaurant before visiting to make sure it is still in effect. Most restaurants will give one meal free for each adult meal. If you find some that allow more than one child per adult, let us know!