I know that I was originally going to post on another subject, and I will soon, but this just had to be written.
I was reading the Huffington Post and I came across this “big deal” about what women should know and have by the time they are 30 and I was grieved.
It was deceptive and full of empty suggestions.
So, I have written a rebuttal. Here is the original post on Huffington Post.
By 30, you should have…
- Either one husband or waiting for the one who should be your husband. If you date and leave behind boyfriends, you will leave behind bits of you that you can never recover and carry with you bits of them that you can not get rid of.
- A grateful heart that is blessed by what others have given you.
- Clothing that you can feel pretty, but modest in.
- A humility that is OK to go places with the old and battered things in your life.
- A youth you are not ashamed of.
- A past that glorifies God.
- Children that will take care of you in your old age, even if they are “adopted” from another family.
- To not have to hide anything with an individual email, voice mail or bank account.
- A house full of laughing, joyful children or a job that allows you to come in contact with them.
- Friends that know what you really need.
- Accepted that you are not Superwoman and it is OK to need others and their help.
- Given money to help others who have less.
- The belief that helping others is better than serving self.
- A healthy attitude toward care of oneself with out being a slave to ones vanity.
- A solid start on a family or a mission.
By 30, you should know…
- How to love others more than ourselves. Or at least as much…
- That you should not wait any longer to have children if you want them and can have them. It gets harder to take care of little ones when you are older.
- How to humble ourselves and admit we are wrong.
- When to love more and when to walk away and pray.
- How to kiss our spouses with out any thought of controlling them.
- Where the people are in the world that still need Jesus… and food, water, clothing and an education.
- How to not end up alone – even if you never marry or have children.
- To go to Jesus when your soul needs soothing.
- How to love who you are as one of God’s creations.
- That you can be healed of the hurts of your childhood and help other children with the same issues.
- That you should do everything for God and let money and love follow.
- That there is help for your addictions and that everyone is struggling with something.
- How to be a trustworthy person.
- To apologize, even if it isn’t your fault.
- That we should learn as much of this as we can before we turn 30.
I will admit that I was closer to 40 before I learned a lot of these things, but at least I was willing to still learn in my “old age.”
What would you like to have or know by the time you are 30 (or 40, or 50)?